Did you ever notice that looking for a job is a lot like dating?
If you fail, then dating/job hunting can be a miserable experience. If you win and get the person/job that makes you happy, then it can be one of the most exhilarating experiences of your life; you’ll live for years off the memory of that perfect meeting/ interview that landed you with the love or career of your life.
With so much at stake, it’s no wonder that both can be a terrifying proposition. Here are six of the creepiest similarities between dating and job hunting:
1) Finding “the one” takes a lot of legwork
For most of us, finding the perfect job (and person!) doesn’t just happen – rather, we have to make a deliberate search. This means setting up online profiles, responding to internet ads and networking with friends or colleagues (ugh, blind dates!) to find the right match. Speaking of the Internet, isn’t it eerie that online dating services ask a lot of the same questions as online job applications?
2) You want to make the best first impression possible
That’s why those nagging insecurities can overwhelm us before a date/interview; we’re putting ourselves, warts and all, at the mercy of another person/company. Their good opinion matters immensely, and may even be a life changer.
3) You end up sitting by the phone
The sober truth is that the better the date or the better the job interview, the more you’re going to be waiting for your phone to ring over the next few days… or weeks.
4) A bad date/interview can be a traumatic experience
We all like to think that we can roll with the punches, but an unpleasant date or job interview can be emotionally debilitating, especially if you’ve pinned some high hopes to its outcome. In the end, you have to be like a quarterback after a bad game; learn from the experience, then let it go and develop amnesia over that particular moment in your life. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, anyone?
5) You’re trying to find “The Right One”
Whether its a potential partner/spouse or job/career, you want to find the perfect match. We’ve all wasted time with the wrong person or job – and we don’t want to repeat the same mistakes.
6) You invest a lot of emotional real estate in the hunt
That’s why it helps to cultivate a sense of humor about the whole experience. It may be difficult at first to live down a bad date or a nightmarish interview, but if you keep your sense of humor, the memories won’t linger quite as long, and you’ll even be able to laugh about it. Plus, you’ll realize the truth more quickly: The reason the date/interview went so badly was simply because the two of you weren’t a good match to begin with.